Been There, Done That - TWICE!

This blog is about my personal experiences as I prepare to embark on my second voyage through divorce.  It will give me a place to vent and share the ups and downs that many divorcees go through. 

But first, some quick background information to help you along this journey with me.

I have been married twice.  The first time was to my high-school sweetheart.  From here on out I will refer to him as H-1. We were together for 12 years and married for eight.  We have three beautiful children together, two boys and one girl.  I spent two years contemplating divorce from my first husband.  It was the hardest decision I have ever had to make especially since it involved more than just myself, it directly affected my children as well.

The divorce went rather smoothly.  I think that was mostly because the children were fairly young at the time. My oldest was six.  H-1 and I are fairly amicable and for the most part able to put things aside for the sake of our kids.  We attend most functions together and the children are able to see us work together in parenting.  For the most part.  There are many things that drive me absolutely nuts that H-1 does but I try to keep it together for the kids. 

H-1 and I have been divorced for five years.  I met husband number two,H-2, in high school as well.  We connected years later and a love match was made.  Or so we thought.  We took the fast track to marriage and five months later we found ourselves under a tree on a bright sunny morning taking our marriage vows.

Now here we are not even two years later, one seperation behind us and in the midst of another, teetering on the brink of divorce.  H-2 is a very challenging man, traditional in his thoughts on how a marriage should be and the roles each of us should take.  We also brought three children each into the marriage.  As if getting married so quickly wasn't enough of a challenge.  Blending six kids together has proven to be a hard task and we both have vastly different opinions on the rules they should follow, I will get into that more in later posts. 

Whoever said that marriage is a compromise obviously didn't tell H-2 because he doesn't get that concept.  Now I know my opinion is biased but I do have several supporters who have seen this particular behavior.

So there you have it, the basics.  More details will follow later posts as each day unfolds around here.  Right now my focus is my children and making sure they are healthy emotionally and otherwise.

Thanks for "listening"